I have always taught my children that politeness, learning, and order are good things, and that something good is to be desired and developed for its own sake. But at school they learned, and very quickly, that children earn Nature Trail tickets for running the quarter-mile track during lunch recess. Or Lincoln Dollars for picking up trash on the playground or for helping a young child find the bathroom ― deeds that used to be called ‘good citizenship.’ Why is it necessary to buy the minimal cooperation of children with rewards and treats? What disturbs me is the idea that good behavior must be reinforced with incentives. Children must be taught to perform good deeds for their own sake, not in order to receive stickers, stars, and candy bars.

① 남을 배려하는 마음을 갖도록 아이들을 가르쳐야 한다.

② 아이들이 서로 협력할 수 있도록 분위기를 조성해야 한다.

③ 잘못된 행동을 할지라도 아이들을 무조건 혼내지 말아야 한다.

④ 아이들이 보상 없이도 바람직한 행동을 하도록 가르쳐야 한다.

⑤ 아이들이 바른 시민으로 성장할 수 있도록 모범을 보여야 한다.